Everyone’s first sex toy was usually tucked away far, far, far into the back of a bedside drawer or sandwiched somewhere under the mattress. That’s definitely true for all of us here at Lioness. Cut to the present, that drawer is full, the box weighs a ton (and buzzes from time to time), and you don’t really care who sees it. You, my friend, have a bonafied pleasure chest and maybe you’re even ready to bring it into a relationship. Wait, how will bringing sex toys affect my relationship? Will it ruin what we have? Definitely not. The belief that vibrators replace boyfriends (the moniker, Battery Operated Boyfriend, comes to mind) or partners in general is a common misconception. What helps dispel these feelings comes down to healthy communication (we have tips on that here). Plus, odds are your partner might have a box of their own! Sex toys don’t make better partners. They don’t offer an inherently better experience, just a different one. Whether it’s a remote vibrator or an everyday dildo, toys can bring a lot more variety to couple play. In fact, a 2016 study conducted by David Frederick, a PhD at Chapman University, found that couples who reported sexual satisfaction in their relationship were more likely to have experimented with some variety of sexual activities, including using sex toys together. It opens up new experiences that can bring you closer — you can see instances of that here with couples who’ve introduced the Lioness Vibrator into their sex life. So yes, bringing sex toys into the bedroom can improve your sex life. It can lengthen foreplay and make the buildup more intense. It’s also a great way to introduce your own self-pleasure experience into couple play, giving your SO insight into what makes you feel good and how YOU make yourself feel good. You can’t really ask for a better (and more fun) way to learn.
In the past few years, the stigma attached to using sex toys and other paraphernalia to enhance your sexual experience whether alone or with your partner has gradually been decreasing but there are still a lot of folks who are still uncomfortable or too shy about using these to enhance their sexual experience.
Sometimes, using a vibrator in a heterosexual relationship can send mixed messages, either the man thinks that he is not satisfactory enough or the woman feels that she needs the vibrator in addition to her man for satisfaction.
On the other hand, studies have shown that men who use vibrators on themselves or their partner during sex tend to have a higher satisfaction rate and better erectile function.
Studies have also shown that couples that find more novel ways to enhance their sexual experience whether that includes sex toys or not, tend to report a more satisfactory sex life and are more satisfied in the relationship in general.
Using sex toys in a relationship tends to indicate that there is more open communication in the relationship which leads to better understanding and a stronger relationship in the long run.
But, you need to make sure that both you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to using these and you should never force your partner to use these if she is uncomfortable doing so.
Also ensure that you use sex toys that are well manufactured and are made up of good quality materials, also take extra care with the storage and hygiene of these toys and paraphernalia.