It seems you could hardly crack a whip in the last decade without hitting a mainstream depiction of BDSM. Fifty Shades Of Grey eviscerated book sales and box office records; Rihanna’s ode to “chains and whips” peaked at number two on Billboard’s 2011 charts; Netflix’s Bonding gives dominatrixes a manic-pixie makeover. All that exposure to kink, power play, and BDSM (an abbreviation for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism) may have you wanting to explore some elements of the practice yourself. Whether you want to try bondage, new props, role-playing, or being more dominant or submissive in bed, the numbers of BDSM-curious folks like yourself are steadily climbing.
Are you one of those BDSM beginners and look for a guide? You’re finally going to try and explore the world of this infamous kink. You’re finally ready to admit that giving up control or dominating someone turns you on. You’ve thought about it a lot. And maybe you already did your own research and stumbled upon this article because you’re not really sure where to start, because, well, you’re a noob!
Before we get into further details, first of all, I want to assure you that there’s nothing wrong with you. I know there’s a bit of a “dark, psycho aura” around BDSM. It’s considered to be a deviant activity by other people. But you know that’s not true. You’re fine. You’re just a bit kinkier than the others. So what? BDSM is just kinky sex play. You just want to roughen things up and get played with or toy on someone with consent. There’s nothing wrong with that!
So for those of you who are intrigued and dying to try this kink, here’s a preliminary guide of things to try in BDSM for beginners like you.
BDSM for Beginners Guide:
1 Try hair pulling
It’s very easy and light. It doesn’t require any sex toys. You can be as gentle as you want. Like playing with a furry friend. Or you can be extreme and pull out all of his hair. It really depends on you. It’s your choice.
2Spank that booty
Go on! Spank that sexy ass! But since you guys are just beginners in BDSM, the guide here is that you really don’t have to go all out and be all fraternity-hazing level with the paddle and all. Start with something light and sexy. Just use your hands first. Start out with gentle smacks then when you feel like you’re ready, increase force to increase the sensation. Just warm that booty up first before getting too extreme. Then when you’re ready to go up to the next level, maybe consider buying toys like a paddle to get wilder..
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